For the longest time I thought I was living my own’s life vision. So, when major pieces of my life started crumbling, I fell into a place of anger, bad decisions, and unhappiness. Upon reflection, this time was necessary to figure out who I was, who I wanted to be, and it gave me time to discover how or why things crumbed in the first place. I could write an entire book about how I got to where I am today and why I became a boundary hunter & self-care coach.
One of my core foundations is to be real. We live in a world where we are always finding the need to impress, to portray perfection, & to not seem “different”. I relish in being different. Once I accepted and understood the freedom in being humanly flawed; I discovered happiness. On my journey I learned that happiness is a choice. The road to happiness is full of hard decisions and difficult sacrifices but, they are necessary to heal and grow. I have found strength in everything that I have been through. I believe that being happy is essential to life and one of the most important things we can do for ourselves. Boundary hunting is my process for establishing and enforcing self-created boundaries. After discovering happiness in my own life, it has been a goal of mine to help others lost in the struggle to achieve the same authenticity and happiness!
My journey can provide value to you on your road to happiness. Do you recognize yourself in the following?
• Following a life blueprint that’s not your own
• Comparing your life or problems to others
• Live your life worrying about what others may think of you
• Are you a people-pleaser? Put others before yourself?
• Overwhelmed (work/life balance)
• No self-care routines or time
• Pulled in many directions or doing too much
• Saying yes when you really want to say no
• Not being treated with respect and feeling unhappy
If you find yourself in any one or more of these…then hunting down these problems and building boundaries will be invaluable for you.
Boundary setting is powerful and takes a lot of courage. One of the most difficult parts of the process is the boundaries you may have to set with family or the ones closest to you. Often times, we don’t realize that our greatest obstacle or most painful situations come from the ones closest to us. You can overcome this and to be honest, some of these relationships will be lost (for good reason!) and some may flourish. The choice is yours!
I believe that we all carry the capacity within us to heal ourselves. Our world revolves around medicine and therapy to fix our problems. This may be the answer for some, but many of us, though not in control of all the circumstances in our life, are still responsible for our own healing. This can be done when time is spent on ourselves, for ourselves, in reflection and through trial and error.
Everything you want begins on the other side of your first boundary! Freedom and honesty to live yourself for YOU! Are you ready to go Boundary Hunting with me?